Lifestyle | 1 March 2018Womanskills for Friendship Share article facebook twitter google pinterest Erin La Rosa’s book, Womanskills, is packed with helpful techniques and tips for cooking, money matters, style, relationships, home improvement, and more. This excerpt from the book will give you tips on making new friends and how to end a toxic friendship. Enter to win a copy of Womanskills below! Make New Friends It’s a truth universally acknowledged that the older you get, the harder it is to make friends. Maybe it’s because we don’t have that wonderful playground setting to find like-minded mates to go down the slide with. Still, even without a playground, it’s possible. First and foremost, be yourself. Trying to reinvent yourself or play a part when meeting a new potential friend won’t help you in the long run. If a person doesn’t get along with you being you, then that person’s not the kind of long-term friend you want to have. Related: if you pursue a hobby you actually enjoy, you’re more likely to meet someone compatible with you. Another idea is a “friend date.” This is when you ask a current friend to set you up on a blind “date” (or even a group date) with a potentially compatible friend. Yes, that means you may have to be a little vulnerable to do the asking, but that’s a large part of what making new friends is about—being vulnerable to another person. End a Toxic Friendship If you have a friend who makes you feel like you just got hit by a truck after every encounter, then you likely have a toxic friendship on your hands. Maybe the relationship is all take and no give, or the person brings out the worst in you, but letting go of that relationship will help you move in a positive direction. It’s completely under your control as to whether this person stays in your life. So consider the friendship and decide whether or not this is a funk your friend will come out of and if you can wait for that to happen. If you decide that the person adversely affects you, and you’re no longer in denial, then it’s time to let go. If you don’t ever want to see this person again, then be upfront about it. Don’t get in your friend’s face or play the blame game. This is your opportunity to sever contact with a person who’s negatively impacting your life, so be direct and brutally honest when explaining why you need to leave this friendship. However, if you know you’ll have to see this person again at some point, begin by slowly pulling away. Say no to hanging out, and if you know your friend will be somewhere, don’t feel obligated to go. Removing yourself from situations where the person can hurt you will show that you’re no longer available for the drama. Regardless of which approach you take, it’s important to fill the hole of lost friendship with something positive. Surround yourself with more supportive people and experiences. Whatever part of yourself this person emptied, fill it back up with what you’d prefer to have had during that time. Having a toxic friend can be a temporary blip in your life, but it’s up to you to make the change. a Rafflecopter giveaway Buy from an Online Retailer US: UK: AU: “This is the smartest, funniest, most patient friend you can get in book form without that book actually being haunted.” – Kristin Chirico, senior editor, BuzzFeed Womanskills is packed with helpful techniques and tips for cooking, money matters, style, relationships, home improvement, and more. It can help you with advice for how to end a toxic friendship and finding a bra that actually fits. You can turn to it when you get the itch to DIY a new wine rack or chalkboard wall. Or you can flip through to answer those nagging questions like, you know, “why do my houseplants keep dying?” While you’ll find plenty of woman-to-woman information (fighting off cramps, cleaning your makeup brushes, and learning to say “no” to name a few), you’ll also find skills to make you more of a badass, like learning how to grill a perfect steak, figuring out how to find a stud in the wall, understanding the stock market, and knowing how to snake a drain. Whether you’re headed to a birthday party and need to wrap that odd-shaped present in a hurry or you need a download on whiskey before book club, Womanskills has you covered. Share article facebook twitter google pinterest If you have any comments on this article please contact us or get in touch via social media.