Relationships | 27 November 2015Flirty Fridays: Diminish Your Flirting Fear and Get a Date for the Holidays Share article facebook twitter google pinterest The holidays are never a fun time to be flying solo. Step up your flirting game with the help of The Flirting Bible and enter to win a copy below! a Rafflecopter giveaway Do you ever get sweaty palms, dry mouth, a pit in your stomach, or anxiety before you approach a cute guy or gal at a party? Do you obsess over questions such as these: • Should I walk over? • What should I say? What should I not say? • Should I try to make eye contact? • Will s/he blow me off? • What if I don’t end up liking him/her? • What if s/he doesn’t like me? Fear can be debilitating. It prevents you from taking risks that could help you attain what you want. Remember, we are all afraid. When I ask workshop participants to raise their hands if they fear rejection, typically about 99 percent of students do. If you are one of these individuals—and trust me, we all are—take a deep breath and tell yourself the following: • If I do nothing, I get nothing. • Trying will make me feel good. I took a risk. • S/He could be the one for me. • Even if s/he is not interested, I will be able to exit gracefully. Remembering these axioms will reduce your anxiety and increase your opportunity for success. If the person you approach doesn’t reciprocate your flirtatious gesture, you will depart subtly. This will be easy because your approach was light and nonthreatening (we’ll get into how to do this in later chapters). Flirting is a sensational way to connect with someone, and it allows you to be playful and casual without a heavy come-on. Flirting Tip: Turn Your Faux-Pas Into Comedy Did you inadvertently do something silly or embarrassing? Turn the situation into something fun and playful. Your self-assuredness will surely impress. Let’s say, for example, you come out of the ladies room and notice a piece of toilet paper stuck to your shoe. At the same moment, Mr. Wonderful walks by and says hi. What do you do? Ask Mr. Wonderful to borrow his foot. No one has ever asked him that before, he replies, but he agrees. You then ask him to step on the paper to unstick it from your shoe. Offer to repay him with a drink. From the Flirting Field Renee, twenty-five, and Heidi, twenty-six, two former workshop attendees, were at a singles bar when they spotted two guys they wanted to meet. Though they weren’t sure what exactly to say or do, they remembered that being fun and playful could take them far. Renee grabbed Heidi, walked over to the guys, and said, “We just took a how-to-flirt workshop and our assignment was to approach two nice, attractive guys…” Sean and Marc, both twenty-eight, were flattered, and the four of them talked for an hour. Sean asked for Heidi’s phone number, and Mark wanted to fix up Renee with his friend. You just never know where flirting may lead. Buy from an Online Retailer US: UK: Become the People Magnet You’ve Always Wanted to Be! Want to make an unforgettable first impression? Or learn how to speak in a way that makes you stand out in a crowd? Or find out what signs a love interest might give if they’re attracted to you? You’ll learn all of these flirting secrets and more with The Flirting Bible, your definitive guide to using and reading body language and other social cues to find instant adventure, friendship, fun, and romance. Nationally renowned relationship expert Fran Greene, former advice columnist for Match.com, will walk you through her thirteen tried-and-trusted techniques for becoming the most confident and attractive person in the room (no matter if you think you are or not!). You’ll learn how to: Make the perfect amount of eye contact to establish trust and intimacy Use the “flirtatious handshake” to make a memorable impression Listen in a way that makes you a people magnet Get conversations started and get noticed by using the props of flirting And so much more! Say goodbye to intimidation and “hello!” to the mate of your dreams with The Flirting Bible—your secret weapon to becoming the most fabulous flirt in town. Share article facebook twitter google pinterest If you have any comments on this article please contact us or get in touch via social media.