Relationships | 13 July 2016Manskills’ 3-Step Approach to Finding Love Share article facebook twitter google pinterest Chris Peterson is committed to helping men succeed in all of life’s situations – from the wilderness to the kitchen to the dating scene. His book Manskills: How to Avoid Embarrassing Yourself and Impress Everyone Else will teach you common sense skills to thrive in all aspects of life and impress those around you with your ability to take charge of a situation. Here are a few of Peterson’s tips for helping men be the best romantic partners possible. Photo from Cool Springs Press 1. Ask her out the first time Don’t be freaked out by a butterfly-filled stomach when you start thinking about asking that lovely lady out on a date. You are not alone. It is the rare male who is truly confident in the face of possible rejection from a member of the fairer sex. There should be something she said or did that leads you to believe she’d actually go out with you. Does she make frequent eye contact with you across the room? Did she seek you out to chat you up? And, most important, does she lean in and touch your arm or shoulder every couple of sentences? If the answers are “yes,” step to the plate, Bro, you’re ready to swing for the fences. The best way to get to asking her out on a date is to find mutual interest. Movies are a great place to start. Talk about a new release and gauge her interest. If she says something like, “I can’t wait to see that one,” that is the sound of opportunity’s door opening for you. Suggest you see it together. You can use the same approach with art openings (aren’t you hoity toity?), car shows (no, you aren’t), concerts in the park, or just about any other happening that she shows an interest in. The beauty of this backdoor approach is that, unlike an invitation to dinner, the suggestion that you share an experience is open to interpretation. It can be as much a casual friends thing as a date. So you leave the meaning open and you both have a chance to decide where the “date” goes from there. Play it cool, keep your head about you, and be a gentleman through and through, and this may be the first time you ask her out, but it won’t be the last. 2. Plan the perfect first date There are those moments when the stars align, Cupid is your best friend, and you actually trip upon that woman who is quite obviously meant to be the center of your universe. At those moments, you need a first date that will knock her off her pins and make her see you as soul mate. The best dates are the most memorable, which doesn’t necessarily mean the most expensive. Yeah, every woman would love a dinner at the ritziest restaurant in town, but that’s setting the bar high, and it doesn’t do much to show how original, clever, and creative you are. Look for an interest on her Facebook page, in talking to her, or even in the photos she has plastered in her cubicle. If she’s a sports fanatic—lucky you—find front row tickets to her favorite team or create a night around a college, minor league or even high school game. On the same note, stay away from skill-based endeavors. You’ll know soon enough if she wants to learn Tae Kwon Do; a first date is no place for lessons. The ideal date gives you time sitting next to each other. Side-by-side seating creates a lot of opportunities for incidental contact that you won’t get sitting across from each other. Contact leads to comfort with each other. Follow? Whatever the date is, it should provide some entertainment so that you don’t have to interact the entire date, but it should also provide a chance to talk one-on-one. Think wine-and-cheese picnic before a concert in the park. Now you’re getting the idea. And watch your clock, loverboy. A date shouldn’t run so long that she’s exhausted by the end of it. The cardinal rule in dating, as in so much of life, is always leave her wanting more. 3. Propose The very word sends chills down many men’s spines. It’s the romantic equivalent of diving off a cliff into water whose depth is a mystery. It’s some scary stuff. But the right woman is the right woman and sooner or later, she’s going to want to see some metal and mineral on her finger as sign you’re a serious man. When that time comes, she should have an inkling, but the actual moment should be a surprise. You are creating one of the most memorable moments that either of you will ever experience (and hopefully the only time either of you will ever experience it). Do it right. Choose a location that is either incredibly spectacular, purely nostalgic, or both. If she’s an out-loud type of person, on bended knee in a crowded restaurant will be fine. If she’s the quieter type, the top of your favorite mountain might be better. The ice rink where you went for your first date? In the middle of Paris? At your favorite ice cream parlor? All cool locales. It’s just got have meaning and impact. Same goes for when. Pop the question in the middle of a busy workday, and you’re creating more chaos where there is already chaos. The end of a wonderful date night is a better choice. When it comes to actually popping the question, the great and unimpeachable first rule is to know that she will say yes. If you’re not absolutely certain, don’t ask, pal. That’s one soul-crushing you don’t want to endure. But if you’re a confident lad, propose in a classic way, on bended knee. Eschew the radio DJ proposal, or the sky written proposal. This is one of the most intimate, life changing moments two people can share; it’s better not to turn it into a 15-second ad spot. Buy from an Online Retailer US: UK: Using a light but practical tone, Manskills covers everything a man needs to know in today’s world. You’ll find essential tips on home repair, car repair, electronics, cleaning, personal grooming, fine dining, traveling, etiquette, outdoor skills and the fine art of conversation. It’s your comprehensive guide to impressing the masses! Share article facebook twitter google pinterest If you have any comments on this article please contact us or get in touch via social media.