Mind & Spirit | 20 June 2016Decoding Your Dreams: Nightmares Share article facebook twitter google pinterest Your dreams can contain powerful messages about life, including guidance about your romantic life. Kelly Sullivan Walden wants you to learn to interpret your dreams to be better guided by your subconscious. In The Love, Sex, and Relationship Dream Dictionary: Your Guide to Interpreting 1,000 Common Dreams and Symbols about Your Romantic Life she outlines everything from what symbols mean in your dreams to how dreaming can carry over to real life. For many of us, nightmares can be terrifying. But are they really trying to tell us something? And how can we get rid of them for good? The Love, Sex, and Relationship Dream Dictionary has the answers! Nightmare I’m sure at some point in your life you’ve experienced a scary dream or two. Nightmares can run the gamut from being a mildly disturbing dance with your shadow to preying on your worst fears, waking you in a cold sweat with your heart pounding. I often refer to nightmares as “venting dreams,” because I see them on a conveyer belt escorting our anger, sadness, fear, and anxiety out of our body/mind/spirit. By the time we’ve successfully shown a nightmare to the exit, we are wiser, more compassionate, and more resourceful than we were before. The bottom line is knowing how to work with nightmares so they can become blessings rather than things to fear. Albert Einstein posed the question, “Is this universe friendly?” The eventual answer came to him after decades of research: a resounding yes! We can apply the “universe is friendly” philosophy to our unpleasant dreams, and thus become grateful for them, because even our nightmares come to us in the service of health, healing, growth, and illumination. Think about it. There is virtually nothing that challenges us more than our personal relationships. Once you find yourself stretching the boundaries of your own comfort zone, your nightmares will kick in to help you reveal and heal all your cherished barriers to love. Use the following FEAR formula to better understand your nightmares and to help you grow through this treacherous terrain: Face It: If you find yourself running, hiding, or avoiding something you are afraid of, realize that what you resist persists. Even though it seems scary or unpleasant, imagine that instead of running, you turn and face the challenging creature. Remember, everyone and everything in your dream is you. Embrace It: Breathe as you become present. Stand your ground while you get a good look at your foe. Is it a person, beast, monster? What color is it? What does it feel like? What is it doing? As counterintuitive as this may seem, move toward it with open arms, knowing it is an aspect of yourself and your own power and it has a gift for you. Your embrace may be a literal hug, or it may be standing toe to toe as you shift from resisting toward receiving the good intention (the gift) this creature has for you. Ace It: To ace it means that the hunted becomes the hunter; you conquer it rather than letting it conquer you. Enlarge your personal space. Your consciousness is so big that your nemesis is now inside the belly of the whale that is you and it’s no longer a threat. The key to acing it is in your willingness to go beyond your normal, rational thinking and tap into your supernatural power. You may need to open up and accept the cognitive dissonance, to embrace the beauty/ugliness, safety/danger, life/death, creation/destruction, and hold it all within your wide-open consciousness. Remember that you are a multifaceted individual. Like a mansion with many rooms, you contain many places to explore, and perhaps you’ve only gotten to know a few of the rooms. A dream that reveals a shadowy character is really an invitation to get to know another room of your love/sex/relationship mansion. It’s only in the shadows because you have yet to turn on the lights. Replace It: If you effectively ace your nemesis, then you have transformed what terrified you into something that can now empower you. Your fear is replaced by fuel to ignite your dreams. Let it make you fearless as you expand and explore the infinite possibilities of your love life. Here’s how Joanne used the FEAR formula to become empowered by her nightmare: Joanne dreams about a naked Brad Pitt wading gracefully through an enchanted waterway. He comes upon a cave surrounded by murky, dark water. Joanne intuitively knows it’s dangerous for Brad to go any farther. She tries to block and protect him from entering. Just then a purple-and-turquoise snake slithers around her belly and bites her on her waist. She wakes up terrified. Upon awakening, Joanne identified the “snake” as the shadow creature. ? She faced the snake by meditating on it and asking what gift it was trying to give her. She became aware that a snake is a symbol of healing, because it sheds its skin, it is in constant renewal, and it is the symbol of medicine. ? She embraced the gift/message by imagining that she was shedding the skin of her former self, and imagined what it would feel like to be free of past baggage with her new love, her animus (who reminded her of Brad Pitt, by the way). ? She aced her dream by no longer being afraid of this snake and having transformed it from a foe into her ally and trusted advisor. ? She replaced the terror she initially felt with a surge of empowerment, confidence, and excitement about the opportunity to explore a deeper intimate connection with her partner. Keep the following tips in mind if you want to have fewer nightmares: ?Refrain from watching the news, horror movies, or action-packed TV before going to sleep. ?Watch, listen, or read life-affirming literature, music, or programming before going to sleep. If you want a deeper understanding of how you and your mate can turn your nightmares into rocket fuel for your love life, I recommend reading more about it in the FEAR formula section of my book It’s All in Your Dreams. Buy from an Online Retailer US: UK: Have you dreamed of a handsome stranger and felt the pangs of love (or lust)? Do you wake up panicked from being chased by a menacing intruder or from falling from a cliff into darkness? Do you wake up to dreams of sex with an ex, your boss, or a celebrity? Don’t be ashamed or alarmed! These dreams are normal and highly symbolic. Learn to decode dream symbols through the steamed-up lenses of our relationships, sexuality, and our human imperative to love and be loved. This guide will show you how to interpret everything and everyone in your dreams as an aspect of yourself. After all, the best relationship advice you can receive is being revealed by your own brilliant dreaming mind. To that end, this bedside companion offers: – Interpretations and definitions for more than 1,000 common symbols, themes, and images from your dreams – Tools for interpreting dream themes, patterns, and emotions – Love, sex, and relationship advice to help support you in finding and/or keeping the partner of your dreams – Definitions organized by dream theme — People and Animals, Time and Place, Physical Objects, Ideas and Whims, and Action and Scenarios Kelly Sullivan Walden is America’s premiere dream expert and a trusted advisor to leaders, executives, celebrities, and countless other individuals. She will guide you on a journey into your subconscious mind where the answers reside to the questions you seek, so you can make real, transformational changes in your waking life. Will you fall in love or love the one you’re with? Are you willing to release your blocks to love and fall in love with yourself? How do you inspire better dreams? How do you transform a nightmare into soul-healing therapy? You’ll find answers to these questions and many more in this comprehensive dream reference. Share article facebook twitter google pinterest If you have any comments on this article please contact us or get in touch via social media.